With all the hustle and bustle, merrymaking and cheer, I can't help but remember that this season can be such a bittersweet time for many of us. As time marches on, most of us are touched with loss, heartbreak and bittersweet memories, made more pronounced by all the 'Joy to the World' surrounding us. There are loved ones we have lost-through death or distance- lost loves, lost lives, lost homes, lost pets....the broken hearts and dashed hopes of living life. I know............... it's not cheery, but it's real.
I know my own holidays of years passed have included a divorce, 2 miscarriages and the loss of my dear dad nearly 4 years ago. Nothing like spending a holiday season in the hospital with a loved one who has just received a sudden terminal diagnosis, to break your heart into a million pieces. I remember getting coffee at Starbucks, on a brief break from the hospital that Christmas. I was stunned at how life beyond the hospital could be moving on, so merrily, while my family was in complete crisis and heartbreak, praying for a miracle. That said, there is nothing like a crisis in your life to build compassion for others who may be going through a heartbreak this season.
If you, like me, find yourself having those painful or bittersweet moments during the holidays please remember:
Take care of yourself....
.......whether it's a special treat, a warm bath, a massage, a brisk walk in the chill air or a bouquet of fresh flowers.
Reach out-to the open arms of friends and family who care. If family is far away,
create your own kind of family this season with new traditions
(I dare you to cry during the movie 'A Christmas Story'!).
Reach out-to someone else who is lonely or in need. Doing something good for someone is always my best 'feel good' advice.
As dark as times may be right now, there will be brighter, more peaceful days ahead. If you are feeling discouraged and lonely, you never know what can happen 'around the next corner' to change everything about the way you are feeling. Looking towards adventure is always a way to keep us focused on the next chapter. *Have hope~in yourself, in life and in your future.
*I know this for a fact.....my most recent "have hope" story happens to be about finding true love...at 82 years of age. I mean it~anything can happen~anytime-so never, ever give up hope for fabulous curve ball in your future.
(*More on that story in the near future)
If you happen to see a crazy driver or a person dabbing away a tear at your local coffee house, be patient, this time of year can be bittersweet for so many.......
Be of good cheer,
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